The Leadership Myth That's Keeping You Stuck

Let’s talk about a quiet myth that’s shaped so many of our leadership journeys - especially for those of us who identify as introverts.

It goes something like this:

“Leave your personal life at the door.”  Or “Don’t make it about you.” Or “Be professional.”

On the surface, these phrases may sound harmless - even wise. But for so many introverted leaders, these phrases plant the seeds of self-doubt that grow into something far more damaging over time.

Because here’s the truth:

Leadership is personal. And trying to separate who you are from how you lead is like asking a flower to grow without its roots.

You are your leadership tool.

Your energy. Your voice. Your preferences. Your personality.

When we’re constantly toggling between “work version” and “real version”, the result isn’t balance. It’s burnout. And I know this firsthand.

That’s why I want to leave you with a few quiet reflection prompts this week:

🌱 What part of your personal self are you muting to be seen as a “good leader”?

🌱 What’s one personal truth you wish you could lead with more often?

🌱 Where might more integration - not separation - actually bring you relief?

ANNOUNCEMENT: A Gentle Shift in Focus 💛

As I’ve reflected on these questions in my own work and life, I’ve made a heartfelt decision. 

Starting this month, I’ll be shifting my coaching practice - and this newsletter - to fully center on the needs of introverted leaders, through a whole-person approach that blends personal growth with professional development.

Why?

Because introverted leaders are often overlooked, underestimated, or overextended in a world that prizes loud over deep. And they deserve support that honors their natural pace, voice, and energy - without asking them to become someone they’re not.

That said…you don’t have to identify as an introvert to find value here.

In fact, the most powerful leadership growth happens when we learn from those who are wired differently than us - when introverted and extroverted leaders partner, complement, and elevate each other’s strengths.

So if that speaks to you - whether you’re introverted, extroverted, or somewhere in between - I’d love for you to stick around.

But if this new direction no longer aligns with what you need, I completely understand - and deeply respect your choice to unsubscribe (you can do that anytime at the bottom of this email).

Either way, thank you for being here. I’m grateful for every step we’ve taken together - and hopeful for what’s ahead. 

 With appreciation and care, Kris 🌸

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